How Being Content Can Help You Overcome Limiting Beliefs and Accomplish Your Goals
Limiting beliefs keep you from accomplishing your goals and finding your purpose. By lacking contentment in your life, you will always find yourself feeling empty and unsatisfied. Contentment is not to be confused with complacency, so make sure you are putting in the effort to be comfortable with the results (regardless of whether the results match your desires).
The difference between Complacent and Content (1:05)
Ecclesiastes 9:11 (Again I saw that under the sun the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, nor bread to the wise, nor riches to the intelligent, nor favor to those with knowledge, but time and chance happen to them all.) is one of my favorite verses that talk about the need to be content (1:29)
The people doing right are not always the one’s that are receiving the best rewards.
The bread does not always go to the wise. if you can’t get your message into a sound-byte, sometimes that is what resonates with people. and you may be interested in helping people, but you can’t made it sound interesting.
Contentment is understanding that you can’t control everything, but you can control your effort (3:50)
Complacent people are concerned about the difficulties of change to the point that they do not try to do anything. (4:06)
Complacent people have a lot of self-doubt and fear of failure.
They don’t believe there is anything they can do to change their life, they just got a bad draw.
They believe that difficult situations prove that they should not try.
The outcome is worth pursuing regardless of the results.
Don’t be focused on the likelihood of you achieving your goals, just focus on what you can control. Focus on the effort you can exert towards your goals. (05:25)
We are talking about you being true to your honest self, we’re talking about you striving to reach your potential and finding your purpose.
There is no greater feeling than the feeling of knowing you are doing exactly what you should be doing in your life.
Let me give you an example:
My dad has a tons of fruit trees in his yard. [07:10]
He grew a mango tree for me, but it died during the first winter. Where my dad grew the tree was a lot more tropical than where I was living.
When mango tree died, I had two choices.
- Give up on having a fruit tree. I tried and it didn’t work, let’s move on (complacent).
- Take a moment to discover why the mango tree died and adjust my plan accordingly (contentment)
I chose to be content with the fact that I could not grow a mango tree in my yard, but I researched fruit trees that were zoned in my area and found that an apple tree would be perfect.
I have had my apple tree for four years and this year is the first year it produced fruit.
It was not an easy journey and I could have given up multiple times throughout, but by being and unyielding in effort (trimmed, talked to the tree, fertilized it, etc.), I was able to accomplish my goal of producing fruit. (08:35)
You can do everything correct and still not produce fruit because there is so much out of your control.
Living in Florida means I have hurricanes to content with.
I recall one year where a hurricane bent my tree almost ninety-degrees, but it did not break.
As a result, when the hurricane passed, I went outside and tied two ropes to stabilize the tree upright. Once it grew in the correct direction for a couple years, it was able to maintain itself on it’s own.
Again, the goal is not to be focused on the outcome and the likelihood of succeeding, because that will discourage you along the journey.
If I looked at my bent apple tree, then I likely would have pulled it out the ground and put it on the side of the road. (09:00)
Because even if the tree lived, it would not produce fruit for a couple years after such a traumatic near-death experience.
However , I just focused on the effort I could exert to help my tree produce fruit. That slight re framing of the situation allowed me to make the next decision without worrying about the future implications of that decision.
The next decision is to strengthen the tree and so that is what I did.
The mindset of a winner understands there are things that are going to happen that you can do nothing about, all you can do is recalculate the situation and make the best decision from that moment onward (09:35).
People who are complacent believe if it was “meant to be”, it’ll just happen (09:50). They believe it should fall right into their lap, and if it doesn’t, it was not for them.
There are lots of things out of your control, but to allow that to deter you from even trying, well that is not the mindset of a winner (10:48).
When you have a winner’s mindset, you understand you can control what you can control and you are going to do everything to achieve the results you desire.
What do you want to accomplish in your life?
It is not a problem to fear failure, it is a problem when you allow fear to keep you from moving. (11:48)
When you are content, you do not compare yourself to others.
- You are not concerned about whether it takes you five months, even though it would only take them five days.
- You don’t concern yourself with…
- country of origin,
- economic status…
You are only concerned about whether your dream is possible. If it is, then pursue it with all your strength, do not meditate on the difficulties… get moving.
Confidence shows up in times of uncertainty. You don’t need confidence when you know exactly what is going to happen.
Another way to look at confidence and uncertainty is faith.
What do you have in that gives you confidence?
- It could be someone you know
- Some have a lucky charm
- Or a cause that is greater than yourself
I have faith that if you give people the right information, they are going to make the right decision more times than not. That people are not bad people, they are just misguided people.
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